So I got asked by a really sweet Hungarian girl the following question:
I remember your post where you wrote about Bulgarian men, how violent they are. Is that really true? Because it sounded to be very creepy…How would you describe Bulgarian people, or the country?
Yes, I remember that post, too! I was very upset about what had happened to my aunt. I do believe that bulgarian men are violent and aggressive, BUT you should take two things under consideration – first, I can’t put ALL bulgarian men in the same bag, some of them are real sweethearts and don’t feel the need to prove themselves physically, and second – I seem to notice a change in the behaviour of my generation and the one before us. Boys my age are learning to appreciate women and are taught good manners and I’m pleased to say that I’ve been handled with great care by the masculine part of the society I live in.
My male friends open doors for me, offer me their seats or their coats, let me walk before them, hold the door for me, give me compliments, hug me gently, apologize for everything they do to me if it was not intentional and so on… They’re starting to figure out where they stand and what they should do. I must admit, it brings me pleasure seeing this happen AND I’m always “chuffed to bits”, when I notice a gentleman’s gesture directed towards me. It’s a big turn on and I believe guys enjoy being polite just as much as ladies do.
I still wouldn’t marry a bulgarian, though I should never say never, but these are my intentions. It’s a long, long topic, but let’s just say that I’m not into bulgarian guys. The ones I like are not acting bulgarian at all (they mostly share my opinion and can’t wait to get out of the country).
Bulgarian people as a whole are very strange. They are reserved and don’t like new things, so they are weary of newcomers and can be a bit grumpy. But a friend of a friend is always their friend as well, and once you win them over, they’re yours for life. They are very welcoming people, always have a room for one more at the table, you wouldn’t be disappointed with the food either, cause we know how to cook damn well. (and in big quantities if there’s a grandmother in the house) 😀 We are very traditional people, we insist on keeping the bulgarian culture alive and we do amazingly stupid things just for the sake of it, cause someone else did it in 12-th century. We sing at both funerals and weddings (the songs are of course different, but yeah…), we take music very seriously and we love to sing. We can take a joke and usually we kid ourselves with irony and sarcasm, so most people think we’re insulting ourselves, which is sometimes true, but not always (like that time, when we sent Krasi Avramov on Eurovision and we still make jokes both in real life and tv about it, we made it clear that we don’t like him, we can at least have a laugh, right?). Bulgarians are also either extremely open-minded or very conservative with almost no one in between. Be that as it may, friendship is VERY treasured here…perhaps more than love. We have the bad habit of speaking bad stuff about each other as a nation and blame everything on the government, when really, we suck at being united and it’s all our fault, not just 1 person.
And at last – the country. It’s a beautiful place to come and visit for say…a month. We have both sea resorts (such as my home town Varna and the surrounding areas that are no more than 40 minutes away from the city) and mountain resorts (Bansko, Borovec, Pamporovo and so on…), where you could go on a ski adventure during the winter, it’s amazing! As a former member of the traveling association, I can say that I’ve travelled a lot in my country and I’ve seen a lot of cultural memorials, resorts, waterfalls, lakes and other views that can just take your breath away. I think Bulgaria is an extraordinary country with spectacular sights, I even think that it’s the most beautiful place in the Balkans and it’s definitely worth a visit. Unfortunately, we have poor management and our politic sucks big time and therefore, we have a lot of problems, which results in people being depressed a lot and not enjoying the environment around them. I wouldn’t live in Bulgaria, not because of what it is now (although, I must admit, I don’t like it and it plays a big part of why I want to leave), mostly it’s because I want to see the world and try something different.
So there you go, Tünde, I hope this answers your question! 😀
//Stef – goodbye for today, lovelies!